Emotional support for relationships,
not another task manager

FOR ADHD ADULTS WHOSE LOVE GETS LOST IN THE CHAOS

Transform relationship anxiety into natural connection.

Systems for your brain, surprises for their heart

Step 1: Remember People Exist

Gentle reminders that important people exist in your world today. No tasks, no pressure—just awareness that someone you love is out there.

Step 2: Start From Gratitude

"Mom loves you and would love to hear from you" instead of "Text Mom." We help you begin from love, not obligation.

Step 3: Natural Connection

Connect when it feels right, not because an app told you to. Your authentic care drives the timing, not a preset schedule.

ADHD relationship support that actually works

Your brain is overwhelmed. Your relationships fade. You care deeply, but can't reach out. Spontaneity is emotional support for ADHD minds, helping you remember people exist without turning love into another task.

Emotional support, not task management

Existence Reminders

Gentle awareness that someone exists today. No tasks, no guilt—just remembering.

Gratitude-Based Messages

'Sarah treasures your friendship' instead of 'Text Sarah.' Start from love, not obligation.

Intelligent Timing

Your gestures feel spontaneous because they are by design

See the research behind our approach →
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About me

Hi, I'm Henry. Former mental health counselor, current software engineer, ADHD adult who built this after watching important relationships fade into the background noise of daily chaos. This is emotional support technology for people whose love gets lost in the overwhelm.

Based on neuroscience research & validated with 15k+ ADHD adults

You're not alone in this struggle

15,401 total upvotes across posts about ADHD relationship struggles

" I went 72 hours airing my crush and he thought it was on purpose, and I feel like if I explain to him why it happened he would think it's an excuse. "


r/ADHD user

3,657 upvotes

" Sometimes I just… forget to have friends? It's like I forgot that socializing with people and making friends is like, something that people do. "


r/ADHD user

2,651 upvotes

" Maintaining relationships is effortful & feels nearly like busywork. "


r/ADHD user

1,186 upvotes

Frequently Asked Questions

Why no snooze button?

Research shows 78% of ADHD users snooze forever. We built for success, not procrastination.

Is this specifically for ADHD adults?

Yes. Spontaneity is designed by and for ADHD adults who experience relationship anxiety and overwhelm. Our emotional support approach accommodates how ADHD brains actually work, not how society thinks they should work.

How is this different from regular reminders?

Regular reminders turn relationships into tasks on your overwhelming to-do list. We help you start from gratitude and love instead of pressure and obligation. It's emotional support, not productivity.

What if I miss a reminder?

There's no "missing" a reminder that someone exists. We simply help you remember again later, without shame or accumulating tasks.

Is this for all types of reminders?

No. Spontaneity is specifically for relationship maintenance and emotional connection. Your brain needs different tools for different challenges—this one's for love that gets lost in chaos.

How much will it cost?

Spontaneity will launch at $4.99/month (less than one coffee, more than one saved relationship). Beta testers help shape the app for free and get 50% off their first three months when we launch.

Join our beta waitlist

Be among the first to experience emotional support for ADHD relationships.